What's Really Holding You Back From Life?

Well, this is the question.

I don’t think this question will ever stop getting asked. It’s the question that everyone, at some point, asks themselves – what’s really holding me back?

Since you’re reading this article (thank you!), I’m guessing that you’re not quite living your dream life yet. Don’t get me wrong - you have dreams, you have desires, you have some kind of vision of what you wish your life to be like, but here you are reading this article wondering why you can’t seem to make it happen.

Well you’ve come to the right place.

Keep reading.

Most people care what other people think, some time or another. You care too. Am I wrong?

But maybe you (and a lot of other people) care too much about what other people think of you – or what you think they think of you.

Now it’s time to be honest – with yourself.

Every time you have thought, or dreamt, about making a big change in your life – whether that’s starting a new job, moving home, dating someone new, or starting a business – have you not also thought “what would other people say?”

Did you not also question in your head “what would other people think?”

I think you did.

Now, whose life are YOU living?

I repeat, whose life are you living?

YOURS. Thank you.

You are not living anybody else’s life. And no-one else is living YOUR life. So stop giving other people the power to influence the decisions that YOU wish to make.

It is YOUR life. The ball is in YOUR court.

Don’t pass the ball. Take the shot.

No-one else will live your life for you. So make sure that you are making decisions that YOU are truly happy with.

Once you realise that the thought of what other people think of you is holding you back from making changes in your life, from chasing your dream, from living YOUR life, you can start to let go. Let go of your attachment to other people’s opinions and judgements. Start taking hold of your own.

Begin by recognising that other people’s opinions are not more valuable than yours. Start valuing your own input and stop investing so much energy and attention into other people’s judgements.

People are going to judge you whatever you do.

If you go out and chase your big dreams, they’ll say you’re overambitious and unrealistic. But if you don’t and you just settle, they’ll say you’re lazy and unmotivated. You can’t escape the judgement of others, but the good thing is you don’t have to! You just need to realise that choosing the way YOU want to live is not dependent on what others think.

Once you stop living according to other people’s expectations, you can be free to live according to your own.

All the best,

Danielle